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TRIO OF FEARS AND THEIR ANTIDOTES

1. FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN

As human beings, we tend to be more afraid of what we don't know. For presenters, the audience is the great unknown. You will wonder: "What do they expect of me? Do they know much more about the subject than I do, etc.?" You will have the tendency to magnify the knowledge of the audience at the expense of your own knowledge. Don't do that!

ANTIDOTE:

Convert unknown to known. The more information you gather on the audience and the more intensive your practice session, the more the unknown will be converted to known.

Guard against procrastination, however, because we tend to accomplish what is in our comfort zone, and put off more difficult tasks. Bite the bullet, and you will have those fears of the unknown dramatically reduced.

2. FEAR OF FORGETTING.

When told they will have to make a presentation, most people are consumed by the fear their mind will go blank, and they will stand in front of the audience without the slightest idea of what they are to say.

They play it safe, write out their presentation, and read it verbatim to the audience. This guarantees failure. People want to listen to a speaker who is connecting with them, and is looking at them, not at a script.

ANTIDOTE:

If you have practiced diligently, even a temporary "power outage" of your brain can be handled.

The solution I have always used is what I call the two-card tango. Place a startling statistic or interesting fact that you have had to delete for reasons of time on a 3x5 card.

On the second card, place a bullet outline of the main points of your presentation. If convenient, place these cards in your pocket or on the lectern.

When the "My mind has gone blank" syndrome sets in, merely take both cards and say to the audience "Let me digress for a moment and share with you...." then relate the information on the first card. If you have prepared well, your mind will kick back in, and you can continue where you left off.

If it does not, slide the second card to the front, and look at the bullet points. Select one point and continue the presentation. Your audience will be none the wiser.

Although I always advocate honesty with your audience, I do not recommend that you say "I forgot what I was going to say." You may get temporary sympathy, but audience members will wonder why they are sitting there, if the issue is not important enough for the speaker to remember what he or she was saying.

3. FEAR OF UNANTICIPATED QUESTIONS.

Many people are not worried about making a presentation, because they are "on their turf." These same people, however, are terrified at the prospect of answering questions, believing they will be embarrassed by not being able to answer questions.

ANTIDOTE:

Seek to anticipate the questions. If you have acquired accurate "intelligence" on the audience's needs, concerns and problems, then you should be able to preempt certain questions in your presentation, anticipate others, and develop succinct answers to others.

No one expects you to be able to answer every question, but they do expect you to be honest. Don't give a false answer to avoid the embarrassment of saying: "I don't know." That honest phrase, followed by the words "but I'll get that information for you," must be in every presenter's vocabulary.

When you make the commitment to get the information, remember that you have a moral obligation to do just that for the questioner and perhaps the entire audience.

Apply these antidotes, and you'll find that the "fear of speaking" will be the catalyst to make you a better speaker.

Copyright 2005 Larry Tracy

About The Author

This article is excerpted from Larry Tracy’s book, The Shortcut to Persuasive Presentations. Larry has been cited in numerous publications as one of the top presentation skills trainers in the US.. His website is in the number one position on Google for “persuasive presentations." Visit it for FREE tips and articles: http://www.tracy-presentation.com.

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Quotes Worth Remembering

Let thy speech be better than silence, or be silent.
Author: Dionysius Of Halicarnassus

A good orator is pointed and impassioned.
Author: Marcus T. Cicero

You can speak well if your tongue can deliver the message of your heart.
Author: John Ford

Grasp the subject, the words will follow.
Author: Cato The Elder

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Don't Rely on the Approval of Others


People who are not self-confident depend on the approval of others in order to feel good about themselves. They avoid taking risks because they fear failure. Many people who lack self-confidence put themselves down and either discount or ignore compliments they receive.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "Every man has his own courage, and is betrayed because he seeks in himself the courage of other people."

To be self-confident, you must trust your own abilities, have a general sense of control in your life, and believe that, within reason, your wishes, plans and heart's desire will come to the fore.

Golda Meir knew what it takes to find confidence. She said, "Trust yourself. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement."

Are you willing to risk the disapproval of others? To cultivate your core worth, and believe that you are on Earth to leave your unique mark?

Be sure you do not measure yourself against others. Instead, rally for your innate qualities to emerge and bring them forth for others to see.

Become the beacon of inner faith -- the shining star in the dark night and behold, you will elicit great gifts to illuminate yourself and inspire others.

Liz Sterling is founder of LifeWorks in Boca Raton.

Sunday

Because no-fear public speaking and successful
assertiveness relate to

self-esteem and self-confidence,
today I am

suggesting books closely related to those topics
by two of

my favorite authors:

Gayle and Hugh Prather



Morning Notes by Hugh Prather

The Little Book of Letting Go by Hugh Prather

Shining Through
by Hugh Prather

Spiritual Notes to Myself
by Hugh Prather

How to Live in the World and Still Be Happy
by Hugh Prather

I Will Never Leave You by Gayle and Hugh Prather


Spiritual Parenting
by Gayle and Hugh Prather

Notes to Myself by Hugh Prather

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Fear Of Public Speaking

by: Steve Hill


Social Phobia is an irrational anxiety brought forth by exposure to certain social situations, leading to avoidance behaviour.

Specific Phobia is a persistent and irrational fear in response to some specific stimulus, which commonly results in avoidance of/withdrawal from that stimulus. It could be triggered by an insect or animal (zoophobia), by a situation like being trapped in an enclosed space (claustrophobia) or it could be a fear of disease (pathophobia).

  • Though it feels real, the fear of public speaking or Glossophobia is what psychologists call "social construction". This means that it is not a natural phenomenon, but the result of something society has created. We expect it to cause fear and therefore, it causes fear.
  • Unfortunately it is this "fear of the fear" which causes the problem to perpetuate, creating a vicious cycle.
  • It is possible for a sufferer to change their attitude to public speaking and thus reduce their fear. If you can figure out exactly what it is about public speaking that scares you, then you can begin to see what you might be able to do about it. This analysis will help you to change your feelings.

For example, if you regard the thought that people might laugh at you to be an important factor in your fear, you should ask yourself when they have laughed at you before. If they only laughed when you wanted them to, then your fear is unreal. Such reflection can make a positive change in your attitude to public speaking.

About The Author

Steve Hill discusses the fear of public speaking at:

http://blog.phobias-help.com

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